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*’HELP A CHILD’S MIND FIND THE POWER WITHIN”*

* Podcast Interview!!*
*’HELP A CHILD’S MIND FIND THE POWER WITHIN”*
Betsy Wurzel’s radio guest is Dr. Roxanne Daleo who is a renowned Clinician, Leader, and Pioneer in Health Psychology.
Dr. Roxanne Daleo is the Founder and Creator of MindWorks for children and discusses why she created MindWorks and why she is passionate about working with children and their parents/ guardians.
Dr. Roxanne Daleo discusses how important it is for adults to tell their stories to their children, to go out in nature, and to use music and sound to destress children. Dr. Roxanne Daleo has a special offer for Chatting with Betsy’s listeners! Listen to the audio for this unique information on this excellent offer.
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Doctor Health Radio from Honolulu, Hawaii

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Doctor Health Radio from Honolulu, Hawaii

She discusses “what improves mental health?” Find out how your heart/brain
is a powerful electromagnetic device that can boost your immune response
and be felt up to twenty feet away.

The most important gift you can give your children is connecting with them
from a place of calm. Learn how imagining a Hawaiian island retreat is good
for your kids and even better for you!

Preserve the Ties That Energize

Thanksgiving Storytelling Family Tradition

By Dr. Roxanne Daleo

“ …and that’s true love!” said my grandpa… his voice made my mind conjure up the entire scene: I see it as if it were real, mom serving dessert after a big Italian-American feast for Thanksgiving Day, always prepared with love by my parents in what I believed to be our beautiful New Jersey home. But the fact is, it was only my grandfather’s voice coming from an audio cassette player. A tape I nearly tossed in the trash moments before to clear the clutter from my garage. So glad I have this priceless treasure today.

Through “imagining” you mentally “see.” Your brain takes the audio input of a voice and provides you a “mental picture”. In this case, it pulled out a memory of the past and my brain served up a scene so vivid you relive it as if it were happening in the present. My grandfather’s philosophy about true love were his words of wisdom I’ll treasure forever.

Your brain can also take an idea or visualization to create a future-self. Your brain can be directed using mental imagery which is really a kind of storytelling.

When you add the auditory aspect, such as a voice, you add a person’s energy because your voice is the blueprint of your soul. Listening to the sound of your own voice is a powerful way to imprint and direct your subconscious mind.

Add the background music and the brain automatically enhances the imagery experience as if it were real. The mind makes no distinction between real and imagined information; this is why using guided imagery narrations for relaxation are a powerful form of mind/body medicine. Scientists are learning how we manipulate and examine pictures of the mind and develop internal states of awareness, resilience and balance.

Many world cultures have been using the power of mental imagery in the form of storytelling. Let’s look at the Native American culture specifically, they have been using the art of telling stories passed down from one generation to the next as their primary form of wisdom communication. Traditionally, Native Americans transmit by story their mythology, spiritual and historical understandings of themselves and the world in which they live to their children.

Storytelling creates the mental imagery in the minds and hearts of the young, that which elders did not want forgotten. In this way, the elders ensured young would not lose sight of their roots, important knowledge that would allow them to live in harmony and cooperation with the natural world.

 

So this Thanksgiving why not try to capture more voices of the elders in your tribe, the seniors in your family. Allow them to pass on their words of wisdom to the children as part of the formal celebration for which we are giving thanks and deep appreciation. In this way, you can be sure your children and their children have your family’s important knowledge through the beautiful storytelling tradition.

7 Keys to Cultivate Storytelling Family Tradition

1.Give your children and their children a beautiful way to honor their elders by asking questions about their roots, heritage, country of origin and the ways of their people.

2.Use a recording devise to capture and remember forever, the voices of the senior family members and their words of wisdom.

3.Make the bedtime ritual include recounting meaningful memories you made this Thanksgiving holiday (holy day).

4.Create a work of art. Draw, paint, sing a song or dance your newly realized wisdom tradition.

5. Each year collect keepsake photos, images and quotes in a box or a book.

6.Ask your child to express the kind of person they want to become; share the vision of a world they want to see and live in.

7.Have your child record their own voice to express their visions. Speak about appreciation, love and peace. Play this recording before sleep so  the subconscious mind can bring good thoughts to every cell in your child’s body.

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Kissing Joy: How To Build A Flexible Attitude

Kissing Joy

By Dr. Roxanne Daleo

Have you ever noticed the way a humming bird darts from one flower to the next, barely staying long enough for you to observe this little creature? Seems the humming

bird has mastered the art of kissing joy; it is the practice of the light touch. As it navigates its world, the hummingbird is touching but not holding onto the sweetness or the non-sweetness of life

In my work helping anxious children help themselves calm down, I find it is their

perception of the event in their lives that causes most distress. They are not realizing

they are the ones who assign meaning to all events. Heres an example: Katie explains, this bad thing happened at schooleveryone keeps looking at me and saying I look sad, am I ok?

The essential ingredient for tapping into our inner resources is to understand we always

have a choice about how we label the events. Our own mind can heal or hurt us; awareness is the path to manage our ocean of emotion. Awareness is being present without labeling, criticizing, or judging.

The most common reaction to the good things that happen in life is to try to hold on,

hold on tighter, making every effort to have that good stay and wall out the bad stuff.

Try as we may, we dont want anything bad to happen to us; whatever badis! And-

if that bad thing does happen, well say: This is a very bad, horrible, terrible thing!

Rather than, suspending judgement and saying to yourself: This is interesting…could be bad, could be good.

In the teaching tale, Zen Shorts: The Farmers Luck, the story reveals the assumptions

of what the neighbors call bad luckor good luckturns out to be the opposite. Through various experiences, the farmer resists the temptation to agree with his neighborsopinions. For example, his son falls off a horse and breaks his leg, everyone says, thats too bad, bad luck! But, in fact, a few days later when the soldiers come to their village to take able-bodied young men off to war, his son is passed over because he has a broken leg!

Can we be both present to the experiences of our lives while, at the same time, being non-judgmental, accepting and curious?

Can we learn to see them, be with the experience without trying to push it away? Can we allow ourselves to feel difficult feelings, rest in it and be?

And if it is a happy, welcomed event, can you learn that kissing joyas she flies by is a wonderful way to play with your imagination, tapping your inner resources in order to be present, notice, enjoy it but not become attached to it? Kiss it and let it go.

And then can you practice, with this same awareness, to be present and notice when something seems awful? Can you practice watching your feelings of sadness without getting lost in them?

Like gathering, collecting all life experiences, noticing the contrast like the many shades of green in nature’s landscape?

Say to yourself: As I use all my senses to take note and savor,

I am present and open to all the feelings in my life.

The practice of kissing joyis an opportunity to become aware of how you can direct your mind to focus- without judging, without making a strong, negative opinion; but rather, just noticing and collecting.

Making a collecting basket, is a tangible way to practice this idea and internalize it for yourself and your child. Say to yourself, Today, as I am filling my basket with the little things in lifegood or bad, happy or sad. I am noticing and collecting with awareness, gentleness and gratitude.

So fill your basket, as you expand your awareness.

Say to yourself; Im feeling the warm breeze on my face or

Im hearing a song that makes me cry

Imagine putting it all in your basket for the day.

Throughout your day, you may want to place in your basket objects like a special photograph or the penny you found on the ground.

At the end of your day, the contents can be taken out and reflected upon as a form of

awareness practice. Be gentle with yourself.

Then you can begin all over again the next day. Empty out the contents; let go of the previous day to make room for the new, the now, of today.

As in the ancient mediative tradition, keep your basket empty. When you do, it becomes a practice of taking in, breathing, watching, and recognizing the every day passing events–likekissing joy lightly, not tightly!

As joy flies by as youre on your way

Give it a kiss and go on with your day.

Embrace the fullness of all that you feel

Welcoming everything-keep even your keel!

Wisdom runs deepest, your open heart knows

To gather the highs, as well as the lows

Kissing joyinstead of holding too tight

Offers the lesson: theres no wrong, no right.




How To Make A
Kissing Joy Cornucopia

As I gather, reflect and release the bits and pieces of my day

I feel peace, kiss joy and gratitude experienced on my way!”

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  1. Take this sheet of paper and decorate the blank side on back (or both sides if you wish) with crayons, markers or anything else that make it special and unique to you.

  1. Start at the bottom right corner of this page (with the text side facing up) and begin rolling the sheet on a diagonal from bottom right to top left.

  1. As you roll the paper and the top fans out into an open cone, keep the left bottom corner of the page in a tight point.

  1. Secure the long outside edge of the paper with tape.

  1. Use the cornucopia as a holder of daily things for which you want to be mindful and give thanks. You can place actual objects such as a a shell, acorn, leaf, or coin as well as pieces of paper on which are drawn or written personal experiences such as “walking through crunchy leaves on a sunny autumn day”, or “discovering a new ice cream flavor because the store was out of my usual favorite”. The idea is to take notice of gifts and opportunities in the ups and the downs, the highs and the lows, the rain and the rainbow.

  1. Once collected, take time at the end of your day to look at your cornucopia and its contents and reflect back on the simple things that reveal themselves to us each and every ordinary day and the blessings they hold. Each day gives us new opportunities to discover and explore joy.

Why Teaching “Thoughtmanship” is important as Penmanship

“As the school season kicks off, Dr. Roxie reminds us that just as we would
teach our children the art of penmanship, first letters then words and
sentences;

we must also teach our children the art of “thoughtmanship.”


Before you speak, think about your message- whether it is self-talk or
talking

to others, be deliberate with your thoughts and words. Because your
thoughts are carried by your words. And your words generate the energy of
your intention. Your energy can be felt, it goes in front of you when
entering a room.


Dr. Roxie’s guided imagery relaxation audios teach you and your child how
to foster powerful “thoughtmanship”- here’s a sample Mp3 perfect for
broadcasting. She uses metaphors, music, nature sounds and children’s
laughter as well as her own soothing voice to guide the listener with
rhythm and rhyme to imagine.


“…you can do it, you can make a pearl from a grain of sand in the magic
of now all things are possible, in the magic of the moment in this one and
this one too… you can turn your pesky thoughts around and create
something new. You can make a difference, you can make yourself feel
better…Love yourself, believe you

can…”


Dr. Roxie is available to discuss more mind/body strategies from her
upcoming book for you and your child, *Energy Blueprint of Health Integrity*
.


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How to Calm Down an Out of Control Child

How to Calm Down an Out of Control Child
 
When your child acts out do you say, “Go to your room and relax” only to find a few minutes later that your child is jumping on the bed or throwing things? Dr. Roxanne, a renowned clinician, leader, and pioneer in health psychology, has solutions for parents to help transform their children from out of control and inconsolable to calm. Learn how moving your energy is essential to transforming your child’s behavior. According to mind/body research, both positive and negative life events create symptoms of stress. Fortunately, there is a powerful form of mind/body medicine helping children and adults alike; harness your inner energies and learn to wield and direct them! Call for a free private telephone consultation.
 

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Reduce Anxiety and Create Calm for You and Your Child

Best Way To Reduce Anxiety
Open Your Child’s Mind to Healing Power Within
Instead of a Pill, Try This Approach When Your Child is Ill
By Dr. Roxanne Daleo
 
Often, when people feel very stressed, they say “This situation is taking years off my life!”
Today, there is scientific proof, that this is true.
 
When I worked as a Research Assistant in the Harvard Department of Behavioral Medicine, Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Program, reported telomere shortening due to stress.
“Telomeres are the repeat DNA subunits at the end of our chromosomes,” says Kabat-Zinn. “They are involved in cell division, and how rapidly they are degraded appears to be tied to the rate at which we age biologically. With these findings, stress reduction has become an important vehicle for helping people re-establish balance and well-being.”
When you teach your child to take hold of their condition, whether physical discomfort such as a headache or stomachache, or emotional discomfort, whatever is their perception of “dissatisfaction”, they take hold of the healing power within.
 
Using the approach “Your Wise Body/Mind Effect” can show them a way out of their pain. It will help them to shift from fighting the pain to having a curiosity to investigate pain/discomfort as if it was an object to explore.
When using this approach, you will learn how to reduce your stress, leading you and your child to more freedom from suffering.
 
This approach will enhance harmony within you because you will have a new-found ability to greet all life experiences ~ whether negative or positive ~ with comfort and ease.
We are learning the practice of kindness and caring for ourselves in a new way. So, instead of a pill, try this when your child is ill.
 
Next time your child tells you he has a sore throat, stomachache or headache ~ do this.
Instead of immediately announcing to your child that you’ll give them an aspirin or
stomach medicine, say: “You have within your own body a smart doctor; did you know that? Yes, you do! And when you sit with me for a moment, you can make a difference in how you are feeling by turning your attention away from the room and bring your attention inward to your breathing. Now breathe with me and imagine sending the breath to that part of your body that is feeling sore or tense or tight. Breathe right into that place. Imagine you are taking a deep breath and blowing out candles on your birthday cake ~ breathe in deeply blow out completely. When you breath out, there is a little switch in your brain that is in charge of relaxation and when you calm your body, you reduce the aching or soreness. Now, you can ask your doctor within you, what you need that will help you. Now, listen for a response.”
Wait for a minute or two as you and your child “pause and reflect” together.
 
If appropriate, have your child take a sip from a glass of water and say: “Pay attention to the sensations of the water in your mouth as it moves over the tongue and down the throat.”
Ask him to imagine drinking the water in slow motion so he can feel the refreshment and then imagine the water like a stream or waterfall washing away anything that may be painful or upsetting to him.
Another idea for using the glass of water is to have your child imagine it as a pure, powerful drink. As he takes another sip, ask your child to feel the calm moving into his body, down into the stomach, calming the jitters and feeling peace.
Of course, you can still give your child a remedy, like a cough drop, but take this first step to introduce your child to his own innate abilities.
 
When you “pause and reflect” in this way, you can teach your child a powerful set of skills. First, he is learning how to redirect and focus his attention on himself and secondly, by being in a sense of curiosity and wonder, will investigate for himself the actual nature of the discomfort.
 
He is learning how to “relate” to the pain rather than “push it away”.
Add a conversation with yourself, with your body like: “Ok, body! ~ you have my attention ~
I am sending you messages of relaxation, so you feel relief. I’m breathing into you to break up the pain.”
When you do this, you can get unstuck!
 
Using guided imagery is also a powerful form of mind/body medicine helping children with conditions from anxiety to illness.
 
This is how we open the mind to a new way of thinking and behaving. We can “try on” the
new thought rather than feel pressure to immediately accept it.
In other words, we can reflect on it.
 
When we get caught up in worry and dissatisfaction, the mind becomes more emotional and loses balance. Yet, the experience of dissatisfaction and suffering is curable through a shift in perception, a shift in awareness.
Say to yourself: “This could be a better way or maybe later or maybe never.” When you say this, do you feel the space in this kind of consideration?
 
Here are two other ways you can help your child help himself.
Show your child the following images: a pendulum or metronome swinging to one extreme side then wait for it as it swings to the other or the ocean waves as they crest then as the waves recede.
What’s happening here in these examples? If we wait, wait, wait for it ~ it will change. Just as your body sensations can. Just as your feelings can.
I hope you can try it!
Tell me your child’s story of the mind/body connection.
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5 Simple Steps That Helps Anxiety Naturally

FIRST YOU HAVE TO ROW A LITTLE BOAT!
 
“ To tack a boat, to sail a zig-zag course is not to deny our destiny or our destination-
despite how it may appear to those who never dare to take the tiller in their hand.
Just the opposite: it’s to recognize the obstacles that stand between ourselves and
where we want to go and then maneuver with patience and fortitude, making the most
of each leg of our journey until we reach our landfall. “ -Richard Bode

I love sailing! It’s exhilarating; that distinctive salty sea air and water mist on my face, causes me to be alert and wide awake. You never know when the wind will change and you must ready yourself. Like the game of life, we are here for the joy of it and must know how to play it.
 
When the sails start to luff, you must head into the wind, tighten your angle to move forward. Obstacles are merely challenges so you can use your head to maneuver onward. You learn to welcome the unexpected because the unpredictable offers you novel ways to find solutions to life’s problems. In the process of sailing, you become confident working your magic: building your ability to be clever and use skillful actions to adapt, improve, improvise!
Can your child “roll with the punches” and “go with the flow”?
 
You don’t need to be in a sailing boat to practice.These are positive, mental attitudes and I can show you how you foster your youngster’s use of inspiration and innovation and how to encourage him to “take off” and “trust”. But first you have to row a little boat- which means, you begin with the self-discipline required for centering yourself, calming yourself no matter what is happening in the world around you or within you.
 
Here are 5 steps for steady progress:
 
1. Practice Relaxation
The most important skill we can teach our child is how to calm and settle himself. But you can’t teach what you do not know for yourself. So begin by taking back the afternoon and just rest together. Turn off cell phones, put away mobile devices and turn on your child’s smiles. Sit together on a back yard swing, relax in a hammock or just flop on the sofa long enough to quiet your nervous system by breathing rhythmically. Four counts, breathe in; six counts breathe out
 
2. Stay Present
Bring your attention to the present moment. In this moment all is well. Feel the peace that is always there which the rush of the day tried to hide. Using a guided imagery audio or music
combined with rhythmic breathing is an effective method for keeping your attention on the present moment. When you develop the capacity to be aware of your mind/body system slowing down, you find your peace. Remember, emotions go to every cell in your body so choose health.
Pay attention to opportunities that present themselves disguised as disappointments, despair or detours. These “problem emotions” give birth to innovation, perseverance and adaptability.
 
3. Be Patient
Practice holding on to peace rather than becoming impatient or uncomfortable with the slowed
down pace. Sometimes it may feel like you have to move or talk or you’ll jump out of your skin! The more you can become focused, the more you can cultivate the passive attitude
of relaxation and the more you can be gentle with yourself.
 
4. Welcome the Unexpected
When you welcome the unexpected, you open your mind to the power within you, so you can maneuver yourself forward and not collapse in a heap of discomfort. When you welcome the unexpected, you begin to think more creatively to find solutions rather than stay stuck in old assumptions, such as, this thing happened to me and therefore I should be crushed! When you welcome the unexpected, you practice using your mind in a special manner that make new nerve endings connect causing you to come up with even more possibilities than ever before.
 
5. Be Determined
Never give up on yourself. Make the most of each leg of your journey until you make your
landfall using your skillful action to adapt, improve and improvise.
Remember this: Thomas Edison was interviewed by a young reporter who boldly asked Mr. Edison if he felt like a failure and if he thought he should just give up by now. Perplexed, Edison replied, “Young man, why would I feel like a failure? And why would I ever give up? I now know definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb will not work. Success is almost in my grasp.”
 
Do you have an example to share with me? Or a situation you’d like support?

Earth Day Activity

 

All the flowers of tomorrow are planted in the seeds of today.”

By Dr. Roxanne Daleo

Today, we need to plant some “seeds of change.” Change for the better! We all have the potential to use our inner vision to see a world we want to live into! Holding an intention of what we want” is empowering.

Ask, “what do I consciously want to create?” The choices we make will determine the quality of life on our planet. Now is the time to decide. Let’s create a new world rather than be diminished by fear.

Mindful seed planting builds self-esteem, creativity and generosity.

Furthermore, selecting seeds for growing herbs that calm you is an additional

measure of body/mind wisdom. For example, camomile and lemon balm make soothing teas,

perfect to drink in the late afternoon or right before bed.

Our minds are like gardens. We can grow either thorny weeds by thinking negative, fearful thoughts or we can grow beautiful, tender flowers.

Here’s a simple, tangible way to encourage yourself and your child to develop health integrity that encompasses all aspects of their being- mind, body, and spirit.

Find an empty egg carton for planting seeds of change. Fill the each egg cup with potting soil. Ask your child to label each row of two cups with a word describing their ideal world such as peaceful, healthy, happy. Water the seeds and place in the sunlight. Watch what happens when the magic of intention is energized!