This month of December is an auspicious time on multiple levels. Firstly, it is
the birth of the newborn baby Jesus and the remembrance of his origin story.
Also, it is time to feel the golden ray of Christ from the cosmos meeting with your heart and third eye with joyful illuminations and the highest perspective.

When we allow the Golden Ray of Christ Light frequencies to flood into our
bodies and fields, we can immerse ourselves in love, joy and peace. Attend to you heart and third eye matching up these two wheels with this energy and consciously bringing balance between heart and third eye. You’ll gain new understanding how we are perceiving the world around us. Open to this incredible down pouring of the Christ light that is coming in from the Universe.

Gentle Attunement

Breathe in calmly and deeply. Feel the sensation of resting, allowing the golden ray of Christ light to move into you, hold for a moment and release the breath.

Take another deep breath, bring the golden ray of Christ light into you heart.

See the radiance, feel the love for yourself and rest a moment. And again, take a third breath, let the golden ray of Christ light expand around your bodies- physical, auric, etheric. Take in the love. As you do see astral bands sent out by your heart to the hearts of your loved ones… harmonize the energy like tuning a musical instrument. Know every thought you keep, every word you speak is fine tuned at the highest frequency you can hold. Now see the astral band between you and another. See the face of God in each other. Allow the golden ray of Christ light to brighten your inner sight so you can truly see all that is; drop old perceptions, beliefs, judgments. Allow the golden ray of Christ light to wash over you, cleansing and clearing, harmonizing to love, joy and peace. Allow this powerful golden ray of Christ light to nourish and sustain you. You are love and so is he. Balance and healing is available with Christ light in this moment. With Christ, the Way Maker, Miracle Worker, Light in the Darkness the energy moves. Even when you don’t see it, it’s moving. Even when you don’t feel it, it’s moving. Christ light is working, never stops working. The golden ray of Christ is flooding in from the cosmos, the love connecting with you is so immense, full of potential, growth, expectation and joy. Open your heart fully to receive these energies. And start to send your heart light back to all in your world. You are one heart. Feel how you are one with all of creation. Rest in these energies for a few moments. You are safe. Breathe in deeply and exhale joyful expectation. Expect love, you will receive it. Expect radiance, you will feel it. Breathe, relax, become the golden ray of Love. . When you feel radiant, open your eyes and smile.

Let’s open minds to the power within. Our own mind can heal or hurt us, we are the ones who assign the meaning to life events and things that happen. The essential pathway to understanding how we might tap into our inner resources is awareness. Awareness helps us to be present without judging or criticizing oneself or others. Learning how to maintain a light-touch mentally rather than pushing away or grasping is a skill worth developing.

The most common reaction to the good things that happen in life is to try to hold on, hold on tighter, making every effort to have that good stay and wall out the bad stuff. Try as we may, we don’t want anything bad to happen to us.; whatever “bad” is! And- if that bad thing does happen, we’ll say:”This is a very bad, horrible, terrible thing!” Rather than, suspending judgement and saying to yourself: “This is interesting…could be bad, could be good.”

In the teaching tale, Zen Shorts: The Farmer’s Luck, the story reveals the assumptions of what the neighbors call “bad luck” or “good luck” turns out to be the opposite. Through various experiences, the farmer resists the temptation to agree with his neighbors’ opinions. For example, his son falls off a horse and breaks his leg, everyone says, that’s too bad, bad luck! But, in fact, a few days later when the soldiers come to their village to take able-bodied young men off to war, his son is passed over because he has a broken leg!

Can we be both present to the experiences of our lives while, at the same time, being non-judgmental, accepting and curious? Can we learn to see them, be with the experience without trying to push it away? Can we allow ourselves to feel a difficult feeling, rest in it and just be without judgement?

And if it’s a happy, welcomed event, can you learn that ”kissing joy” as she flies by is a wonderful way to play with your imagination, tapping your inner resources in order to be present, notice, enjoy but not become attached to it? Kiss it and let it go.

And then can we practice with this same awareness, when something seems awful? Watching our feelings of sadness without getting lost in them?

Imagine you are gathering all life experiences, noticing the contrast like the many shades of gold, yellow and brown of the autumn leaves.

Say to yourself: “As I use all my senses to take note and savor, I am present and open to all the feelings in my life.”

The practice of “kissing joy” is an opportunity to become aware of how you can direct your mind to focus without judging, without making an opinion; rather, just noticing and collecting.

Let’s make a collecting cone. Roll up a piece of colored construction paper and tape it so it holds its cone shape. This is a tangible way to practice “kissing joy.” 

Throughout your day, you may want to place in your cone real objects like an acorn, red maple leaf, or finding a head-up coin or photograph.

Say to yourself, “Today, as I am filling my cone with the little things in life I am noticing and collecting with awareness, gentleness and gratitude.”

At the end of your day, the contents can be taken out and reflected upon as a form of awareness practice. Be gentle with yourself.

Then you can begin all over again the next day.  Empty out the contents; let go of the previous day to make room for the new, the now, of today.

As in the ancient meditative tradition, keep your cone empty.  When you do, it becomes a practice of taking in, breathing, watching, and recognizing the every day passing events–and ”kissing joy”. Enjoy!

One of the major factors that contributes to your child becoming mentally strong is
learning a “growth mind set.” That means, the more you can give your child ways to
practice flexible thinking and adaptability, the faster your child will build skills in social-
emotional intelligence which leads to a sense of competence.

It all starts in the home environment, you be the energy that generates a supportive,
positive, enthusiasm for learning and life. You introduce your child to the ways they can
become competent, flexible, industrious and adventuresome. Talk about the ability to
see things from a new perspective and different viewpoints; It can be as simple as
playing a game and seeing several steps ahead of time.

A growth mindset is both preparedness to the expected and openness to the
unexpected. Show your child how to problem-solve using two different moves, like in a
game. Demonstrate how to see different vantage points. Here’s how.

BRANCHING OUT— YOU CHOOSE —GO RIGHT OR GO LEFT?

Imagine a tree with two large branches growing outward from its trunk. You might want
to illustrate using a tree outdoors, a photo or make a drawing while sitting at the kitchen
table. Now, let’s say, the branch to the left we’ll call “A” and the branch to the right we’ll
call “B.” You have the ability to choose. For example, say you are planning to ask a
friend to join you to do something, if he says “yes” that’s “A” and you know what you’ll
do. But if he says “no” that’s “B” then you have to plan out what to do instead.
In this way, you still feel OK and in charge of your energy and emotions thereby
keeping your inner balance. When you have a growth mindset, you are prepared,
ahead of time, with both “A” and “B” decision. This way you feel more control. You don’t
have to let the outside world upset you. You have enough awareness to know both are
OK. And you develop inner strength.

If you like this article and want more about developing flexibility read “Anything Can
Happen Thursday” on Dr. Roxie’s blog and FREE guided relaxation audio
https://drroxannedaleo.com/roxie/resting-is-caring-guided-meditation/

After enduring more than two years of lockdowns, isolation, sickness, grief, loss and uncertainty, our children are not alright! According to recent reports from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, there has been increased instances of bullying and social media usage which are also impacting our kids!

Stress levels for our kids along with their parents and teachers are at an all time high. The Surgeon General Vivek Murthy said, “the future well-being of our country depends on how we support and invest in the next generation.”

Here are ways you can help your young child cope with feelings of sadness and anxiety. Start at an early age to foster inner resources.

1. Connect physically with your child and keep them close. Physical contact is essential for building security and safety. And a great way to bond with your child and uplift your spirit is to give piggy-back rides. For the child, the feeling of being carried immediately changes your child’s heartbeat from stressed fast pulse rate to a slower more relaxed one, this frees your child momentarily from the undercurrent of emotional distress. For the person giving the ride, having the closeness allows the next tip to happen easily- talking together in fun.

2. Talk and have fun with your child at times when things are undisturbed so they know you are there when they need you. Being present and close during the ride on your back opens the conversation for intimacy and sense of peacefulness which is very much needed to reassure you and your child.

3. Listen to your child without judgement and be patient as they express their feelings. Help them learn the words to identify their emotions. Say things like, “sounds like you were afraid of getting lost” or “maybe your friend just had made other plans but he still wants to be friends with you, or tell me more.”

4. Offer coping skills you can learn together such as, relaxation and visualization. Visit www.drroxannedaleo.com for FREE guided imagery relaxation audio.

The throat is the communication center of your body.  Your throat can be used in verbal and non-verbal ways:  verbally as in speech, non-verbally as in humming.

Humming enhances your brain power and calms the nerves. Humming deeply, will create more resonance. And creating more resonance generates the intention behind it. For example, humming softly, melodically in the ear of your child helps calm her. Whereas, humming in staccato (the musical signature of short, quick beats) or deliberate popping sounds can uplift your child’s mood from distressed to delighted.

Both kinds of humming is a kind of sonic meditation in which you vibrate! Literally, you vibrate your skull and brain with your lips closed. Doing this for about three minutes will put you into an altered state of consciousness and will transmit this trace-like state to your child which is very calming for both of you. Webster’s dictionary defines hum as “to run smoothly”. I love that!

This process has been well researched in the field of sound healing and it is called entrainment. Entrainment is being in rhythm with our child, activity, surroundings and with the Universe. Grandmothers singing lullabies and indigenous peoples using chanting and drumming knew the power of sound healing. We can bring back these ancient practices for modern times as we incorporate techniques for raising the resilient child.

Besides having the calming effect, it is interesting to note, that the humming vibration actually wakes up your brain cells and makes you receptive to ideas and subconscious information. So if you want to tune up your brain, hum to yourself.

When you are attuned to your surroundings, you are able to pay attention to the vibrational nature of all life.

Teach your child to connect with you for the purpose of calming down together.

We know from neuroscience when you exhale, as in blowing out a candle, the area of the brain called the medulla oblongata triggers the “Relaxation Response” a process developed by Harvard cardiologist, Herbert Benson, MD. who wrote the New York Times best selling book by the same name. A must read if you want to be convinced of the beneficial effects for adults and children.

Also use the deep breathing practice with outdoor fun by blowing out dandelion puffs and bubbles.This simple out breath, activates the brain and heart to bring about the relaxation response—isn’t that amazing? 

1.Catch your child in the act of being caring and sharing and you will get more of that behavior. Slow down the action by deliberately bringing attention of the one who gave, to the expression of joy on the face of the other. This is an emotionally intelligent way of building your child’s self-worth. Self-concept grows out of the positive and negative experiences in your child’s life; so be on the look out for the positive ones and amplify the influence these experiences have by making sure your child “sees and feels” good about himself in the process.

2 The second key to building self-worth is found when we model how to take our attention off our own problems and worries and focus, instead, on what we can do for someone else. The simple shift in thinking about “the other” – our brother, our sister, allows the child to lose track of circumstance and create an act of kindness and caring for its own sake. An act of caring done without any expectation of  getting something in return actually makes your child feel worth..

3.Prompt your child by having a short conversation about ideas that would help the other member of the family or would offer an expression of joy and love for them. When you take the time to do this, you help your child truly know their own identity and significance. 

4.Tell your child about the day or night they were born. Children love to hear about the excitement of their birth. Use storybooks like: “Knots On A Counting Rope” by Bill Martin, Jr. and “On the Night You Were Born” by Nancy Tillman.

5. Tell you child how you named him and why. This kind of personal information gives your child awareness of his identity and significance. Read this bedtime story:  “The Incredible You”  written by Wayne Dyer.

“It is spring again. The earth is like a child that knows poems by heart.” -Rainer Maria Rilke-

Here in New England, when Springtime comes after the long, cold winter, it’s
magnificence and magic cannot be denied. Perhaps, it is because the change of
seasons are truly dramatic in this part of our country but I like to think that it is Mother
Nature awakening our senses to her cyclical beauty so that we may remember her
ever-giving life in all forms and our deep connection to all that is.

Let’s celebrate Earth Day with these four simple daily rituals which honor the earth and
reinvigorate our health and the health of the planet:

1. Walk barefoot everyday. Known as, earthing, this practice connects us to the
Earth’s electrical energy providing a boost to our energy and a reduction in inflammation
in our bodies. “Earthing is a scientific phenomenon for healing our bodies by doing one
of the simplest things a human can do… standing barefoot on the Earth.”

2. Walk and breathe through the quiet forest. Known, as Shinrin-Yoku, this practice of
forest bathing, which originated in Japan, results in lowering your stress hormones and
improving your respiratory and immune systems. Immerse all your senses in the forest-
not only what you see but pay attention to the smells, sounds, tastes and touch. Did you
know that pine needle tea is good medicine? Try it!

3. Hug a tree or lean up against it. You can close your eyes and imagine as the tree is
taking up nutrients from its roots all the way to the very top branches and leaves.You
are getting this tremendous energy current through your body for rejuvenation by
connecting to the tree in this way.

4. Think eco-mindfully everyday. Choose a few ways of taking action to reduce your
carbon footprint. Recycle plastics and bottles, pick up trash on your path, compost
kitchen food waste. Every small effort makes a big difference.

March in New England can be quite windy and even chilly as the earth thaws and buds
remember their way of rebirth for us all to see again and again each year as if it was
a unique, spectacular occurrence. And yet it is normal and natural. The wind is Mother
Nature breathing and stirring up the energies of the atmosphere.

So it is with our own breath. Show your child how you can slow down by being present
and breathe to tap into our inner energies. Use your own moment-by-moment
awareness to offer your spontaneous availability.

Try this simple, joyful practice. Place some flower petals in the palms of your hands;
then, take a deep breath, make a wish and blow the petals into the wind. See how far
they will go.

Through this method, you are teaching yourself, first and foremost, how to be BOTH
spontaneous and available. You do this by recognizing the fact that you can generate
emotions of pleasure and peacefulness by choice.

Teach your child to connect with you for the purpose of calming down together.
We know from neuroscience when you exhale, as in blowing out a candle, the area of
the brain called the medulla oblongata triggers the “Relaxation Response” a process
developed by Harvard cardiologist, Herbert Benson, MD. who wrote the New York
Times best selling book by the same name. A must read if you want to be convinced of
the beneficial effects for adults and children. The positive results will be fast and
effective.

For more information or a free guided imagery click below:

Resting is Caring – Guided Meditation

By Dr. Roxanne Daleo

The number one factor that contributes to your child’s healthy self-esteem and industry
is the development of a growth mindset. That means, the more you can give your child
ways to practice flexible thinking and adaptability, the faster your child will build skills in
social-emotional intelligence which leads to a sense of competence.
It all starts in the home environment, you be the energy that generates a supportive,
positive, enthusiasm for learning and life. You introduce your child to the ways they can
become competent, flexible, industrious and adventuresome. Talk about the ability to
see things from a new perspective and different viewpoints; It can be as simple as
playing a game and seeing several steps ahead of time.
PREPARED AND FLEXIBLE EMPOWERS
A growth mindset is both preparedness to the expected and openness to the
unexpected. Show your child how to problem-solve using two different moves, like in a
game. Demonstrate how to see different vantage points. Here’s how. Imagine a tree
with two large branches growing outward from its trunk. You might want to point to a
tree outdoors or make a drawing while sitting at the kitchen table. Now, let’s say, the
branch to the left we’ll call “A” and the branch to the right we’ll call “B.” You have the
ability to choose. For example, say you are planning to ask a friend to join you to do
something, if he says “yes” that’s “A” and you know what you’ll do. But if he says “no”
that’s “B” then you have plan out what to do instead and still feel OK and in charge of
your energy and emotions so that you can keep your inner balance. When you have a
growth mindset, you are prepared, ahead of time, with both “A” and “B” decision. This
way you feel more control. You don’t have to let the outside world upset you. You have
enough awareness to know both are OK.
ADJUSTABILITY AND IMPROVISATION BUILDS CONFIDENCE
We also have to be able to move forward without knowing everything ahead of time.
When we have a growth mindset to “think on the spot” “think out of the box” we become
better able to adjust or improvise. To improvise means “to make do from whatever is
available.” A fun way to demonstrate improvisation is by exploring. You can comb a
beach for drift wood and other objects and create a sculpture. Or you could make
something new at home with left over craft materials, fabrics or electronics. Bringing
new energy and the creative forces to what is available builds confidence to find ways
out of a sticky situation or to just discover interests.
INNER DIALOGUE PREDICTS
When you can talk to you child about the effort he is putting into a task and you promote
the growth mindset with your encouraging words, then your child will use those words to
speak to himself. This is powerful because inner dialogue predicts esteem and resolve
to never give up on yourself. You can say things like “if at first you

don’t succeed, try, try again!” or “You are becoming a person who isn’t afraid of giving
your best, your effort is recognized.” Now ask you child to affirm this by saying to
themself: “I am becoming a person who does my best every time!”

BEING CALM TOGETHER FOSTERS EMOTIONAL STABILITY
Every day make time to be calm and stay quiet together with your child. When you
unplug from the noise of devices and pressure of the outside world, your child
learns to appreciate your presence and his own stillness as the best way to tap inner
resources for peace. Share deep desires of the heart. Ask: “What makes you excited?
or What do you know comes easily for you to do? These are your innate talents.
Everyone has them, it’s up to you to recognize them and grow them with a grow
mindset. That means practicing and building these skills.”
The most valuable gift you can give is your acknowledgement that you see you child
“becoming” the best version of themselves, practicing new skills and developing a
growth mindset. We can’t know everything all at once, but your child can become
content to know they are already good enough.

If you like this article and want more about developing flexibility read “Anything Can
Happen Thursday” on Dr. Roxie’s blog and FREE guided relaxation audio
https://drroxannedaleo.com/roxie/resting-is-caring-guided-meditation/